My Hero is going to be a segment where I talk about people who are very important to me, whether they be celebrities, people I know, or characters.
I first saw Hari Nef in the video for He, She, Me. I didn’t know her name at the time, I didn’t know a thing about her, and I never could have even imagined how important she would become to me.
Hari Nef is a 23 year old woman raised in Massachusetts, who now lives in NYC. She is an actress, a model, and a writer. Hari is probably best known for her role in the second season of Transparent as Gettel, a trans woman living in Nazi Germany.
These past few months Hari has been increasingly important to me, as I’ve been acting on the feelings I’ve had about my own gender. Being someone who came out as a gay male a few years ago, and having been part of that community since, it’s been almost impossible to go without exploring my own gender at some point. Through all of this I’ve looked to her as someone who I can relate to in this way, someone who I can understand, and through that understanding maybe begin to understand myself.
I’m not sure why Hari’s own experience resonates with me so strongly, but she’s someone I highly look up to, and someone I aspire to be like in many ways. I think her work as an actress is brilliant and touching. I think her writing is intelligent and well thought out. But I respect her most as a woman, who stands her ground and demands to be seen.